Since January, I have been writing about solving the fulfillment puzzle. I believe we are each called to live a meaningful life, and doing so is good for our families, our communities and us.
I’ve covered the first eight pieces of the fulfillment puzzle. They are:
A healthy relationship with yourself and others.Skills and abilities to earn a living wage.A safe and supportive home and lifestyle.Understanding personal finance and building good habits.Integrity – personal and financial.Your vision of financial independence.Dreams and the tools for accomplishing them.Adding value to others by living your purpose.The ninth and final piece is a mutually supportive community. There are two types of mutually supportive communities:
A circle of support for you and your personal growth.1,000 true fans who support your work.Circle of supportYour circle of support is the group of five to seven people you gather with regularly to help each other be accountable, overcome obstacles to your goals, celebrate what’s working in your life and examine what’s not.
Creating and nurturing this kind of group requires a high level of trust and commitment. Trust comes from:
Showing up regularly.Being accountable.Compassionately telling the truth.Challenging yourself and others.Being willing to withhold judgment.Sitting in such a circle has been life-changing for me. For the past eight years, I have been sitting in men’s circles as part of my involvement with the ManKind Project. Currently, there are six such circles in Durango.
1,000 true fansFirst popularized by Kevin Kelly in 2008, the law of 1,000 true fans says that as a creator, solopreneur or small business owner, you don’t need stardom and mega success to thrive economically. You just need 1,000 loyal fans to make a fine living. For more about this, visit http://kk.org/thetechnium/1000-true-fans.
True fans root for your success. They look forward to interacting with you, connecting with your purpose and benefiting from the value you provide the world. On average, you can expect a true fan to spend a day’s wages on what you produce. Some will spend more, some less, but on average, they will each spend about $100.
That’s $100,000 a year – a good living while achieving your own fulfillment and serving your community.
Being part of a mutually supportive community will challenge you to grow and confront your self-imposed limits. That can be hard, but as part of solving the fulfillment puzzle, it’s worth it.
Durango resident and personal finance coach Matt Kelly owns Momentum: Personal Finance. Visit his website, www.personalfinancecoaching.com.