When emotions rise, try giving them a name

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When emotions rise, try giving them a name

Tips for weathering emotional storms

Put on your own oxygen mask first. It takes a lot of patience, resolve and compassion to meet a child’s anger, complaints, fears, etc. We don’t like to see our children suffer, and their big emotions can feel scary and endless. When you feel that storm brewing, ask yourself what you need to be present. Deep breaths are a good place to start. Direct some empathy toward yourself. Remind yourself that this is not an emergency.Empathize with the feelings. As long as no one’s in danger, set the behavior aside for a moment and look for the feelings. Empathizing means “feeling into,” letting your child know they’re heard, not that you necessarily agree with them or will change circumstances to accommodate their wishes, but that their feelings are safe and allowed. Avoid judgmental labeling. Pointing out to your children that they’re complaining or whining can put them on the defensive or bring up shame and take you farther from connection and resolution.Investigate needs. What is the need behind the emotion? Make some guesses. Are you feeling sad and worried about being away from home all weekend? Is it hard to leave behind the familiar and head into the unknown? (The needs might be for comfort, reassurance, familiarity, fun, autonomy.)Find a win-win solution. Often being heard and understood is enough and no solution is needed. If it seems a solution is needed, see if you can come up with one that meets everyone’s needs. How about as soon as we get the tents set up, you choose a special snack while I read you a chapter from our book?

When emotions rise, try giving them a name

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