Gold Star parents who lost child in military service to gather in Durango

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Gold Star parents who lost child in military service to gather in Durango

Jana Schaefer, who’s coordinating the Gold Star Parents gathering taking place this weekend in Durango, sets out some of the 280 photos of Coloradans who have died while serving in the military since 2000.
Some of the 280 photos of Coloradans who died during military service since 2000 are on display for the Gold Star Parents Weekend taking place in Durango this weekend.
Cortez resident Brandon Frazier
Cortez resident George Geer
Durango resident William McCotter
Ignacio resident Jason LaFleur
Pagosa Springs resident Roshel Rivard
Bayfield resident Brandon Stone
Pagosa Springs resident James Thode
Blue Star Mother Teresa Ahl, a volunteer for the Gold Star weekend, said the story of Brooke Caffrey will stick with her. “The first year her parents Lana and Wayne Telford, came, her father asked where her photo was and came in and saluted it. The next year, her mother came in and gave it a big kiss with her lipstick on, which you can still see on the photo.” Ann Butler/Herald
Coloradan Kristoffer Domeij was deployed to war zones 14 times, dying on the final deployment in 2011. That was a record number of deployments at the time, Gold Star weekend coordinator Jana Schaefer said. Ann Butler/Herald
If you go

Most Gold Star Weekend events are private to give families time to be together. But two events Sunday are open to the public:
9 to 11 a.m. at Rotary Park, a nondenominational service will be held. The Gold Star parents hope first responders and veterans, in particular, will attend to help honor fallen comrades.11 a.m. to 5 p.m. at the Veterans of Foreign Wars Post No. 4031, 1550 Main Ave., a photo exhibit featuring the 280 Coloradans who have died in military service since 2000 will be on display.

What to say

“I’ve done a lot of reading about how people cope with other people’s loss,” Pat Stone said about how to speak with the Gold Star families in Durango this weekend. “They tend to be very uncomfortable and don’t know what to say. They can just say ‘thank you,’ that’s all they have to say.”
Other words of advice about acknowledging the loss Gold Star parents have suffered:
Harold Geer – “I appreciate the sacrifice or thank you for your son’s or daughter’s service. They don’t have to fawn over us.”
Julie Williams - “I don’t appreciate people saying, ‘Well, they’re in a better place,’ or ‘You’ll get over it in time.’ It’s better when people say they’ll remember my son, they appreciate not only their sacrifice, but yours or say we are free because of what they have done.”
Cheryl Jackson - “Thank you for your son’s willingness to serve. I’m sorry. I love it when they say his name or ask me his name. Maybe, since he was from Durango and the Gold Star weekend is here, there will be some who remember him.”

Gold Star parents who lost child in military service to gather in Durango

Jana Schaefer, who’s coordinating the Gold Star Parents gathering taking place this weekend in Durango, sets out some of the 280 photos of Coloradans who have died while serving in the military since 2000.
Some of the 280 photos of Coloradans who died during military service since 2000 are on display for the Gold Star Parents Weekend taking place in Durango this weekend.
Cortez resident Brandon Frazier
Cortez resident George Geer
Durango resident William McCotter
Ignacio resident Jason LaFleur
Pagosa Springs resident Roshel Rivard
Bayfield resident Brandon Stone
Pagosa Springs resident James Thode
Blue Star Mother Teresa Ahl, a volunteer for the Gold Star weekend, said the story of Brooke Caffrey will stick with her. “The first year her parents Lana and Wayne Telford, came, her father asked where her photo was and came in and saluted it. The next year, her mother came in and gave it a big kiss with her lipstick on, which you can still see on the photo.” Ann Butler/Herald
Coloradan Kristoffer Domeij was deployed to war zones 14 times, dying on the final deployment in 2011. That was a record number of deployments at the time, Gold Star weekend coordinator Jana Schaefer said. Ann Butler/Herald
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