WASHINGTON After Friendster came MySpace. By the time Facebook dominated social media, parents had joined the party, too. But the online scene has changed dramatically, as it turns out and these days even if youre friends with your own kids on Facebook, it doesnt mean you know what theyre doing.
Thousands of software programs now offer cool new ways to chat and swap pictures. The most popular apps turn a hum-drum snapshot into artistic photography or broadcast your location to friends in case they want to meet you. Kids who use them dont need a credit card or even a cellphone, just an Internet connection and device such as an iPod Touch or Kindle Fire.
Parents who want to keep up with the curve should stop thinking in terms of imposing time limits or banning social-media services, which are stopgap measures. Experts say its time to talk frankly to kids about privacy controls and remind them again how nothing in cyberspace every really goes away, even when software companies promise it does.
What sex education used to be, its now the technology talk we have to have with our kids, said Rebecca Levey, a mother of 10-year-old twin daughters who runs a tween video review site called KidzVuz.com and blogs about technology and education issues.
More than three-fourths of teenagers have a cellphone and use online social networking sites such as Facebook, according to the Pew Research Centers Internet and American Life Project. But Facebook for teens has become a bit like a school-sanctioned prom a rite of passage with plenty of adult chaperones while newer apps such as Snapchat and Kik Messenger are the much cooler after-party.
Even Facebook acknowledged in a recent regulatory filing with the Securities and Exchange Commission that it was losing younger users: We believe that some of our users, particularly our younger users, are aware of and actively engaging with other products and services similar to, or as a substitute for, Facebook, the company warned investors in February.
Educators say they have seen kids using their mobile devices to circulate videos of school drug searches to students sending nude images to girlfriends or boyfriends. Most parents, they say, have no idea.
A stay-at-home mom of eight kids in Burke, Va., Eileen Patterson said she used to consider herself fairly tech savvy and frequently spends time on Facebook. But she was shocked to learn her kids could message their friends with just an iPod Touch mp3 player. She counts nine wireless devices in her home and has taken to shutting off her homes Wi-Fi after 9 p.m., but she describes her attempt to keep tabs on her kids online activity a war Im slowly losing every day.
I find myself throwing up my hands every now and again, Patterson said. Then Ill see something on TV or read an article in the paper about some horrible thing that happened to some poor child and their family, and then I try to be more vigilant.