Upon reading in The Weekly Bulletin (Nogales, Ariz.) about the sentencing decision of four years probation for Kevin McDonough for the murder of Jacob Dodson, in Patagonia, Ariz., I felt Kevin had more of a chance for reconciliation than being in prison.
There is no way that a person can take the life of another without fear and pride being behind the act. Family and friends of both Kevin and Jacob are experiencing the emotional impact of what occurred between the two young men – feelings or thoughts of sorrow, loss, anger shame, revenge or compassion.
When emotions control our actions, as they did in this case, unconscious violent acts can happen. The killer, along with the others, suffers the consequences whatever the justifications or legal ramifications might be.
In the process of responding to my own personal suffering, am I able to see that, as human beings, we are in this together? Could it be that reconciliation is not just for Kevin, but is a way to heal the separateness that this situation has presented? As Nelson Mandela said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”